The Unburdening Motherhood Manifesto

Preface to this Manifesto:

Motherhood brought me to an awakening I never expected. It was confusing, sometimes really hard, and I lost the me that I had come to know (and like). It felt like all of the pieces of me that I had put myself together with to get through childhood, adolescence and what I thought was thriving in adulthood came crumbling down. It broke me open and brought me to a new, deeper, purposeful light in my heart. It’s what drives my work, my writing, and my mission. If you’re a mother who’s ever felt lost in the weight of it all, I hope this reminds you: you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

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I believe motherhood is a rite of passage. It is an identity transformation as profound as adolescence, but unfortunately, it is not yet acknowledged in Western culture.

Matrescence remains largely unspoken, unsupported, and misunderstood.

I believe mothers are not broken—they are burdened.

Burdened by impossible expectations, intergenerational trauma, and a culture that glorifies maternal sacrifice and invisibility.

Burdened by the myth of “a good mom,” by the lie that perfection is love, and by the silence around their pain.

I believe we need to stop pathologizing mothers and start seeing them, listening to them and caring about them.

I believe that when we honor the emotional complexity of motherhood—its rage and tenderness, its grief and joy—we make space for truth, understanding, and healing.

Healing that doesn’t just soothe symptoms, but transforms systems—inside and out.

It is my experience that the model of Internal Family Systems (IFS) is one of the most powerful tools available for that healing.

It helps mothers unblend from shame, guilt, and perfectionism. It offers a practice to know ourselves, care for our parts, and soothe our reactivity. It restores access to Self—the calm, confident, connected center that was never broken, but can be clouded over by our self-protective armor.

I believe when a mother heals, her children benefit. Her family and her community will resonate with the ripples of her unburdening.

Not because she becomes perfect—but because she becomes present, Self-led, and free to love from wholeness instead of unmet needs or unprocessed wounds.

I believe that mothers deserve more than tips and tricks. They need more than wine, a massage, or acrylic nails.

They deserve spaces that honor their complexity. Spaces that are safe to name and acknowledge their experiences. Their inner stirrings, questions, and sometimes tears.

They deserve systems that empower their sovereignty and community that says: “You’re not alone—and you never were. I got you, Mama.”

I believe this work is sacred. It is not soft.

As parenting paradigms are shifting in the culture with awakening women who long for Truth and a desperate desire to not replicate or pass on their wounds to their children, we need a path. We are craving revolution. And it starts with us doing our work.

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If this speaks to you—I’d love for you to share it or leave a comment below. You can also explore more of this work in my upcoming book, Unburdening Motherhood, available in 2026, as well as my free video series Mastering Motherhood, or by reaching out to connect.

We can unburden motherhood and make it our own—together.